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Purpose in the Middle of the Mess – Finding God’s Plan in Your Struggles

This post is part of the Perfectly Placed Blog Series. Next: Turning Wounds Into Wisdom – How God Uses Your Pain for Purpose

Purpose doesn’t always come from a place of comfort—it’s often forged in the middle of the mess.

The family arguments, the sleepless nights, the unanswered questions, and the moments that made you wonder, “Why me?”—none of it is wasted. The dysfunction you’ve witnessed and the tears you’ve cried aren’t just random events in your life story. They are threads God is weaving into your calling.

In Perfectly Placed, I share how God never makes mistakes in where He positions us. The family you were born into, with all its flaws and complexities, is not an accident. It’s part of His plan to shape you, stretch you, and prepare you for the purpose He designed for you long before you were born.

📌 Related Read: Finding Purpose in Family Pain – Learn how God can redeem even the hardest parts of your story.

God Doesn’t Waste Anything

It’s easy to believe that God works through blessings—but He also works through brokenness.

  • The rejection that left you feeling unseen? He’s using it to teach you the value of being known by Him.

  • The chaos you grew up in? It’s preparing you to create peace in your own home.

  • The pain that made you doubt your worth? It’s deepening your compassion for others who feel the same way.

Psalm 139:16 reminds us: “All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.”Even the messy days have meaning.

When Life Feels Messy, Purpose is Being Born

In the middle of it, it’s hard to see. The pain feels louder than the promise. But just like seeds grow in the dark before they break through the soil, purpose often develops in the hidden and difficult seasons of our lives.

Your story is still unfolding. What feels like a setback may be the very soil God is using to grow something new.

📌 Related Resource: Five Steps to Finding Purpose in Your Family – A free guide to help you see how your family story fits into God’s plan.

It’s Time to Reflect

What part of your family experience might God be using to prepare you for your calling?

Continue Your Journey

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